Peter asked about the sex, and I told him it was sweet, but I wanted to talk about the blows. And he asked the questions friends ask to make sure you're being honest with yourself.
"I'm just wondering," he said, "why isn't it abuse?"
Without thinking, I gave my most honest answer: "Because it feels good."
Talking about kinky sex can feel so strange with vanillas. Intercourse is nice and all, but it's the blows, the implements, the stern looks that are so much more interesting. And feel so good.
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I once dated a sub who was into face-slapping, but I just couldn't do it. Spanking, yes. Flogging, yes. I can flog a sub all over her body, but I feel uncomfortable slapping her face. I guess it's just ingrained in me that that's something you Don't Do. Obviously for that author, it's something you do, but I think it's not for a lot of people.
It not a go for me, Daddy Bigbear did try with me, but it was totally different for me.
Then the the issue face slap marks are not discrete.
I started writing a reply to listener42 the other night, then got distracted and closed the computer down without finishing my comment.
You bring up a very interesting issue, listener, of how edgy face-slapping can be. Particularly as it seems like in our society there is an even greater taboo about slapping someone across the face than there is about spanking.
And it can be hard to carry out. A. and I have done it to each other every once in awhile during a scene (obviously not in the same scene). While I quite like the idea of being slapped, I found it hard to do it myself. I was a lot like the author in this essay who starts out pulling her hand back but by the time it actually lands, it seems very timid.
Your point, roguebfl, that it seems to create a different head-space is also very true. It definitely doesn't have the caring sort of feeling that spanking has but rather something rough and brutal.
Though there are times when rough and brutal -- speaking only for myself, of course -- can be kinda yummy. ;-)
Well, it seems that my kinks all circle around my derriere or my hubby's derriere (spankings, rectal temperatures, rectal exams, suppositories, enemas, anal sex...).
Apart from that, I'm fairly "vanilla" (unless enjoying giving and receiving oral sex does not count as such). I enjoy getting and giving caresses and... my favourite action is vaginal penetration in the missionary position. Nothing like being under my hubby's, feeling his chest on my breast, his erection inside my love tunnel, and his fingers on my clit.
Regardless of what we do in bed, I generally need intercourse to be fully contented.
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